Day 18: First time you were disappointed
I am my parents’ first disappointment
my birth left all their plans in complete disarray
that disappointment seeped deep into my soul
and from birth I have remained steeped in it!
None of my achievements
nor my accomplishments
could erode their despondency
the hurt and accusation in their eyes
blamed me for my chromosomes!
Disappointment corroded my innards
my tear dampened heart aggravated matters
my rusty, creaky, broken soul could not be fixed
and life seemed such a burden!
But I am a hardy one;
somehow bloomed despite the thorns
forsook my jittery ways
to embrace life-affirming ones
so when love came a knocking
I welcomed it with open arms!
Now having passed my dna to a cherub of angelic smiles
who is the ruler of my Kintsugi heart
I have got over my parents’ disappointment
by giving birth to an adorable, prayed for daughter!
(Written for OctPoWriMo)
This is not about me. But it is a sad reality for many a girl child in India. My disappointments seemed very trivial compared to the tribulations they face!
Oh so sad but a happy ending Punam. š¢šš
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Yes, it is very sad, Christine. But I wanted it to end on a note of hope! Thank you. šš
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Yes, sad.
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It is.
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Love it. ā¤ļøšøš
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Thank you so much, my dear! ā¤ļøšŗ
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A reality in many parts of world. But you turned it around. šš
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Yes, Sadje! I am hopeful things will change. Thank you. šš¼
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Youāre welcome š
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Oh my gosh…I was ready to cry.
This was so wonderfully expressed. Such things that go on in the world and often we are blind. Love that you shine a beautiful light on this with your poetry my dearest. You are such a gem
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My personal disappointments seemed nothing compared to this. I wanted to highlight this too happens. Thank you so much for your heartfelt response. I am touched, dear. Thank you so very much. šš¼ā¤ļøš
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Well done! Very emotional piece šš
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Itās a shame that female babies have less āvalueā in some parts of the world than male babies.
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It truly is! But things are changing gradually.
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So sad that these girls have to carry such a burden of disappointment. Very well written, Punam, I could feel the weight while reading it.
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You are so right…it is unfair! Thank you so much, Marieke. šš¼
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Youāre welcome
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So glad it wasnāt you Punam, but so sad that in so many parts of the world it is!
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It is very sad, Lorraine.
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The feeling of being a disappointment is so corrosive like you say. I loved the ending, that bought a smile to my face, and beautiful lines like
ā…the ruler of my Kintsugi heartā.
Wonderful poem dear friend ā¤ļøā¤ļø
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It is a sad story played out in many homes. But I also wanted to highlight the gradual change that is coming. Moreover I like to end on a happy note! š
I felt Kintsugi would be very apt here. Thank you so much, Rachel. Your words bring warmth. ā¤ļøā¤ļø
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āAnd warmth is the leitmotif of lifeā
Another great line of yours oh wise one (hope I quoted it right, seems youāve etched your poetic lines in my memory!).
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You know Rachel, you are amazing! ā¤ļøā¤ļø
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A great one on changing for better!!
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Thanks a lot, Newton.
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My pleasure, Punam!!
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Hard to imagine that a parent could be disappointed by their child. I’m glad that things are changing, it just seems to take a long time. A wonderful narrative bringing attention to this injustice.
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It is hard to imagine but it does happen! Thank you so much.
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There is a callousness shown by a parent who prefers a baby born a particular gender, for whatever reason. It’s like looking a gift horse in the mouth. I hope one day our world sees gender equality.
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I also hope for such a world, Li!
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I was glad to read it was not a personal story, as I knew that in many countries/cultures a son is preferred…in the US, if the first child is a boy it often brings relief, and then a daughter may be easily welcomed afterward. And I love how the daughter in your piece “bloomed despite the thorns”–a warrioress born to be a blessing! ā¤ ā¤ ā¤
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Thanks a lot, Z. Here the gender ratio is skewed against women but things are changing. A son is still preferred as first born, then if a daughter follows she is accepted happily.
I wanted it to end on a positive note. šā¤ļøā¤ļø
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I appreciate the positive finale greatly, as that’s what I’m trying to achieve as well–we can do it!! š ā¤
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We sure can! šā¤ļø
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Blessings to you! ā¤ ā¤ ā¤
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Much love to you ā¤
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A very important topic to write about!
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I felt that too!
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http://curatingthoughts.blog/2019/10/20/eyes-that-ask/
inspired by your post.
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You have articulated so much in a few words! Very well written, Pallavi. Thank you for the shout out.
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Thank you, Punam! Your post was beautiful and it stayed with me for a while. š
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This is so emotional…Punam..
Sad reality but change is in the offing…
So well written Dear ā„ļø
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Yes, indeed! Change is in the offing. Thank you so much, Sarika. ā¤ļø
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There’s a certain madness in how we believe, even desire destructive ideals, and justify them. The worst bit is blaming others when they can’t be as desired.
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Absolutely Paul. It is so disheartening when people justify, so righteously , their wrongdoings.
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Disheartening indeed, hoping for change.
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Change is taking place, but it is slow.
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Needs the community action equivalent of a defibrillator to speed it up.
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